Or in other words, you're either gay, ace, or post on pixiv.
A few people outside these groups have the magic, but they're the minority.
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Or in other words, you're either gay, ace, or post on pixiv.
A few people outside these groups have the magic, but they're the minority.
(Posted this in a comment and I wanted to repost an edited version)
I like Cohost as a social media platfrom. I think its a fun experiment, and has a good niche in the social media landscape.
However, I feel like some people are drinking the koolaid way too hard. I don't see why people act like Cohost's minimalist design is de facto correct. I also don't care for the moralizing vibes in certain people's take. There's such a huge difference between "this sites lack of numbers works for me and is what I want from a social media site" and "Cohost's way of doing things are innately better, and people are too addicted to twitter/mastadon/whatever". The latter inadvertently turns Cohost into an ivory tower that's largely ignorant and out of touch with the rest of the internet- It ignores the many normal use cases for social media.
I liked when people sold Cohost as a "third website", not the main social media platform but a more quiet side-site. I'm unsure why that line of thinking has been dropped.
Its a little funny, in a deeply relatable way, watching younger transfolk become jaded with stereotyped trans femme norms. Like yeah, finding meaningful community and connection is hard as hell, and I'm still figuring it out myself.
Honestly- I think there's a part of me that's given up on the concept of a community. Maybe building deep relationships and finding ways to protect myself and those I love is enough.
One of my beefs with a lot of spaces is this sort of unchecked parasociality- creating an illusion of everyone being there for each other in a sort of one-sided community, and then using said community to solicit action, funds, clout, etc. Its especially dangerous when there's an all-encompassing grandeur. Its easy to mobilize people into doing whatever when you upsell everything you do as moral, rational, or realistic.
IME, these spaces can just burn someone so badly. It sucks feeling invested in spaces only to realize later the people in those spaces don't acknowledge you, provide anything other than empty promises, or even really know who you are.
And to a degree, I do think some degree of parasocial-ness is unavoidable in our modern day. But that can be managed by being explicit. Tell people what you're about when you're building a platform/space. Be clear what the limits are and what is the thing that's ultimately being asked and offered.